The dangerous perfect wedding
“Having shot over 150 weddings, let me save you some time if you are planning a wedding - there is no perfect wedding. That concept just doesn’t exist. ”
Ever since you were little, you’ve dreamt of a perfect wedding. And I don’t blame you - Society has unconsciously and consciously massaged this notion of a perfect wedding into our hearts and minds for decades. This sometimes may come into play when you’re planning your wedding and you realise (and sometimes dont even realise) that you’re slowly becoming obsessed with this ‘perfect wedding’. You may start to alienate people and bulldoze others who may offer up some alternative ideas. Having shot over 150 weddings, let me save you some time if you are planning a wedding - there is no perfect wedding. That concept just doesn’t exist.
There are so many aspects of a wedding that may not go to plan on the actual day. For example, you may have a little sprinkle of rain at some point in the day, or the timeline may run a bit late. There may be some drama amongst the guests (after all, we know what happens when Aunt Mary has had one too many). Your dress may have caught a little dust from the floor as you walked into the aisle. One of the table settings may have blown off with the wind. It’s fine. Don’t fret. This is the one day that’s for you and your partner - you’re starting a new life together. Enjoy it. Enjoy every little bit of it - even the imperfections. All these are things that are out of your control so stop worrying about them and let go. No one will care or remember them in a few days.
Which brings me back to the start. As you’re planning your wedding, remember there is no ‘perfect wedding’, so have realistic expectations, let go of the things that are out of your control and enjoy the planning and relish all the little moments which may turn out to be not so little!